Counting Days, Weeks, Months, Years...
/My life is split from life before Wesly's death and life after Wesly's death. In the first few weeks, I counted the hours, then days, my husband still counts the days. I then counted it by each week, every Friday for the first few months I would take a moment at the time of his death, to say a prayer for him. Being at work, it sometimes was hard to do that though.
After about 10-12 weeks of doing that, I started to acknowledge by the month instead. It's not the day of the week he died usually, but easier to say it's been 3 months, 4 months... now it's been 7 months for me. Not yet at the year mark, but that will be another transition process as well. It takes time, for all of us.
Even though I acknowledge his death by the month, I honor Wesly's life almost daily with my prayers to him and God.